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I honestly do not like the phrase “getting back on track” because I believe it can set us up for failure; it is like we ‘failed’ by falling off the track in the first place. In reality, we probably just had a slip-up or had an off day and that’s okay. We need to learn from it and learn how to come out stronger.

I wanted to preface this thought first to share with you some things that I have been working through lately. What I want to talk about are those times when we get sick or a hard life event happens and we feel derailed. I went through some hard times these past few months and I want to share what I did to bring myself out and get back to my routine. My goal by sharing this story is to hopefully help someone who is struggling to get going or needs to work through some hard times.

On December 14th, 2021 I found out that I was four and a half weeks pregnant. My fiance and I were so excited, just like a lot of you; we started fantasizing about the future. But on January 16th, at nine weeks pregnant, I miscarried. We were and are very sad about this loss but we know in our hearts that this was not meant to be. We are now excited for the day when we do become parents.

I knew that I could not let the sadness keep me from the everyday joys that life brings; I began the healing process by making mini-goals each day. Two weeks into the miscarriage, I started getting sick and found out I had Covid. Which lead me to begin a whole different type of healing process in addition to the miscarriage. I am not sharing this for sympathy or to make light of any situation similar to this. I know everyone goes through hard times and deals with hardship in different ways. However, I wanted to share with you how I started to get back to my normal, after being at such a low. Below are four easy tips to get back on track if you are going through a hard time.

  • Make Mini-Goals

Making mini-goals helped me a lot. And YES I kept them supermini. If you know me, I LOVE setting big juicy goals, but I mentally and even physically couldn’t do that during this time. So I made mini-goals, such as getting out of bed a few times a day, drinking a shaker of water a day, cooking one meal, or getting one load of laundry done. Yes, they were super-mini. At any other time in my life, I could probably get all of these done in one day with no problem. But I had to take it slow. After I completed each task or chore I saw that as a win, I would stack these wins! So each day I added something different to add to my stack of wins, more and more until my routine was back to normal. So for instance, once I accomplished some of the tasks above, adding a few things looked like, getting in five minutes of stretching, doing a ten-minute bodyweight workout, or upping my water and drinking three shakers of water a day. All these stacked wins eventually lead me to my regular workout routine.

  • Listen to Your Body

Listening to my body was another thing that really helped me. Every day was different and whatever my body felt like that day I did or didn’t do. Of course with stacking my wins, I felt I could do more and more from week to week. There were a few days that I didn’t feel that I could get any workouts in. I also noticed I would get really sore after I did a workout, so I needed to consider my recovery time as well. I decided to listen to what my body was telling me so I could heal at the pace it required. With that being said, I eventually got back to my regular workout routine because I took that time to do what my body needed.

  • DO NOT Let Yourself Feel Bad

This was another huge thing. Obviously, I knew I could do more in my regular everyday life, but I made sure to honour myself and my body. I am aware that I went through a lot and it’s okay to take a slower approach because I knew I would feel better soon. I didn’t beat myself up for not being the person I am on a regular basis. I was going through heartbreak and illness all at once, and sometimes the strongest thing one can do is take it easy without guilt. If I would have let myself feel bad for not feeling up to “getting back on track”, I may not have healed as well or as quickly.

  • Accountability Partner

Whatever/whoever you have for your support, make sure you have someone to talk to. My family and fiance’s support were amazing throughout this time. My Facebook group with all my clients was absolutely amazing as well:) Most of the ladies in this group are busy moms looking to improve their health and fitness, which was great because their goals are aligned with mine! They are all looking at bettering themselves. The support system was so helpful to have.

I would love to say that I hope no one ever experiences what I went through or have lows, but in reality, it does happen. I truly feel that moments like these do help us become a stronger and better version of ourselves. It may be hard at the moment, but hopefully, these tips will help you move through the hardships. Remember that support can come in various forms and from many different people. Some struggles may require a professional on your side. I want to stress that what I did are tips that helped me. If you ever feel like you need more help, there are many wonderful support options beyond friends and family. Regardless, I hope that if you ever feel like you are in a situation where you have been knocked off track, believe that there is joy on the other side and it is okay to take things slow. You will come back stronger than ever!

Photo By: David Ford

You probably are thinking that this article will be about exercising more and eating less to help get you results. Now, that might work for a short period of time, but it may not be sustainable. Today we are going to dig a bit deeper into why you may not be getting the results you want.

Let’s review my top three reasons why you may not be getting results:

1. You are too much in your head.

There is so much research out there on positive thinking and getting results. We could go into the science with data and numbers, but just knowing from my personal experience and the experiences my clients have had, remaining positive and getting out of your head can help. It also doesn’t cost you anything to try!

One way to choose positivity and get out of your head is to change your thinking. If you have self-limiting beliefs, let’s learn to replace them with EMPOWERING beliefs.

One way to choose positivity and get out of your head is to change your thinking. If you have self-limiting beliefs, let’s learn to replace them with EMPOWERING beliefs. For example, a limiting belief could look like: “I am not confident enough or strong enough.” And an empowering belief could look like this: “I am on a continuous fitness and health journey of learning which never ends”. I challenge you to come up with a list of limiting beliefs that you have had and shift them to empowering beliefs. Once you have your list down, whenever you feel the limiting belief creeping in, swap it immediately to the empowering belief!

2. Not the Right Program.

I am not saying that the program you are in won’t ever be the right program for you, but maybe it’s not tailored toward your goals. Checking in with your coach regularly, asking questions, and clarifying what you want to achieve is important if you feel you aren’t getting the results you are looking for. Always be sure to be clear with your coach on what your expectations are. Ensure the program is a good fit for your needs, goals, and values. If after a while you still don’t feel the program is suited for you, don’t be afraid to change things up or ask for help to find that routine that drives you!

3. Not Enough Practice.

This is another common reason why you may not be getting results. Consistency is key. Practice makes progress. I am sure you have heard these phrases before and it is so true because they WORK. When you stick to something long enough, it came become routine and hopefully that routine becomes your lifestyle!

Let me share a quick analogy with you to support this point:

When a child is learning how to walk, they often fall down many times, however, they get back up again. Over and over again. They are consistent and they continue to practice a lot. If they just gave up, then we would have a world full of people crawling, never learning to walk!

Remember, if you want to reach your health and fitness goals, you CAN do it. You need to keep at it. Stay consistent, choose positive self-talk, keep practicing, and get back up when you fall!

Photo By: David Ford

Raise of hands; those of you who are moms, who struggle with mom’s guilt!? I am sure you all raised your hands!

Sorry guys, this one will be just for us females. But it might be informative to get an insight into some of our experiences. 

I personally feel that we females are programmed to want to help others, maybe motherly instinct, but I also feel that having a better perspective around what actually is helping others vs hurting others, based on how we treat ourselves. 

Most of us females will put off doing things for ourselves first, because there are so many other things that need to be done first, whether it is laundry, feeding the kids, taking the dog for a walk, cleaning the house, we truly feel that this needs to be taken care of first. But what if we switched our perspectives?

I always get my workouts in first, even if it may be rushed. I always feel energized after and I feel I am showing up better not only for myself but for the people around me.

Did you know that most of my clients, when they start working with me and they start on an exercise and nutrition journey, that their energy improves, their mood improves, they are able to do more for their kiddos? Now imagine with all that extra energy, better mood, and ability to do more, what you can actually be capable of.

I know for myself, I always get my workouts in first, even if it may be rushed. I always feel energized after and I feel I am showing up better not only for myself but for the people around me.

I am sure you have heard this analogy already. If you have, it’s a good reminder and if you haven’t, it is also a good reminder. You know how on the airplane when they tell you that in case of an emergency and the air pressure changes, to put on your air mask first before a child’s. Now, why? Because since we have taken care of ourselves first, we can now take care of other people way better than we would have done before. If we didn’t put on the air mask first and we passed out, we aren’t very helpful!

Now I am not a mom, but I understand this concept and I know my clients thrive off of this perspective change. PLUS, they tend to instill such an important concept of health and nutrition to their kiddos that can make lifelong changes. So what are you waiting for? Do this for you! Start that workout routine, sign up at the gym, register for those zoom workouts, challenge yourself to join a transformation challenge. 

I want you to know that you truly DESERVE this for yourself and the opportunity to become a better version of yourself. Let’s see what you are capable of doing and crush your health and fitness goals.

Photo By: David Ford

NO MORE YO-YO DIETING. TRY THIS TIP TO TRULY SEE THE RESULTS YOU’VE BEEN WORKING TOWARDS

What do you want for yourself? What’s the goal that you want to accomplish? Imagine having the body you desire? If you achieved your goal, what would this look like?

When most of us are looking to lose weight, increase energy and boost confidence, we usually start by doing a deep dive into the latest trend on social media. Or maybe we stock the popular page on Instagram to see what the top influencers’ are posting to find the next best diet or quick fix remedy! Instead of wasting your limited free time on fads and gimmicks, what I want you to focus on is goal setting! Goal setting? Yes, goal setting! However, this is not JUST about coming up with a SMART goal like you did in high school or at your kids’ first day of school meetings. I want you to throw out what you thought creating a goal should look like and follow these simple steps to set a proper (meaningful) goal. Let’s make it foolproof, to ensure you are going to get the body you truly deserve.

First, I would like you to understand and remember to BELIEVE that you CAN! You are fully capable of accomplishing this goal. No matter what past trauma you may have gone through, what limiting beliefs that you have; you can totally accomplish this goal. That is number one! Trust me on this one, it is that belief in yourself that will take you from 0 to 100! Don’t tell yourself otherwise. Heck, even I believe in you! Just some random person who is writing this column in the passenger seat of the vehicle, heading to a family event, believes in you, so you should too!

Now I understand it may be hard to trust yourself, but let’s work through these steps to get you closer!

Goal setting is so important for success; having a plan and something to work towards will help to keep you motivated and on track. Consider a few things while goal setting. How is this going to look? How are you going to achieve this? Be as specific as possible. What do you want to get out of the program that you are in? Write it down! Whatever you feel is achievable but be specific!! This will help you pinpoint what you want to work towards!

So let’s dig deeper into how to be specific. The next step in goal setting may be an emotional journey for some, but trust me, the process is worth it and will take your goal from being worlds on a page to something with meaning, purpose and result-laden depth.

Ask yourself: “What is my WHY?”

Knowing your “WHY” is HUGE! It puts a lot more importance on your goal!

Why do you want to lose weight?? Why do you want to fit into the pair of jeans you could wear 5 years ago?? Why do you want to have more energy?

Is it because you felt confident and want your confidence back? Do you want to feel sexy again? Or to be a healthy role model for your family and kids? Or do you want to be able to bend down to play with your kids and even pick them up without a back spasm?

Finding the “WHY” to your goal makes your goal solid. So how do we find the why…?

Through the Seven Layers of Why!

I often go through this process myself and with my clients. So let’s work through it together.

ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOUR GOAL IS? AND THEN CONTINUE ASKING YOURSELF WHY UNTIL YOU FIND THE TRUE MEANING!

Pick your goal: For today’s example, let’s say it is that you want to lose 15 pounds!

Now we are going to continue asking why this is important.

I want to lose 15 pounds…

Why is this important?… Because I don’t like being overweight.

Why is this important? ….Because I have no energy and no confidence in myself.

Why is this important? ….Because I want to be a role model for my kids.

Why is this important?…. Because my parents weren’t there for me like I want to be there for my kids.

BOOM now that’s your WHY! Dig DEEP, this may be emotional but it’s going to give you a stronger connection to your goal! With this stronger connection, you are more motivated to stick to the goal of losing 15 pounds because of the meaning behind the goal.

Of course, as you see in the example above, you might not get seven layers, it might only be three and that is perfect. Maybe it’s because that’s where you are at with opening up about your true why, or you are really good at digging deep and you can get right to the point. Either way, it is your journey and that’s what is important.

So now that we have our goal and our why, I want to focus on tools that you can implement today in order to help motivate you to fully accomplish your goal.

 Here are a few tools you can use!
I want you to focus on a few that you feel will work really well for you and your lifestyle:

  • Write your goal and your why on a piece of paper and stick it on your mirror, fridge, or pantry, etc:
    Try to find an area where you will see it daily. Much like a tattoo, seeing your goal in writing and somewhere visible makes it real and permanent. The more you see it, the more real and permanent it feels, creating a stronger connection to that goal. You will have a much easier time pushing yourself to accomplish it when you are reminded what exactly it is that you are working towards every day.
  • Tell someone: An accountability partner, family, significant other, a friend, or a trainer.
    Again, this part is just as important as creating the goal. Much like the old saying, if a tree falls in the forest does anyone hear it? We can create all the goals that we want to, but if we don’t share them with anyone does it hold any weight? It can be easy to give up because no one knew about the 15 pounds you wanted to lose or the marathon you wanted to run. I encourage you to share your goals with someone significant to you. Since you put in the work of giving your goal a why, it now means something to you, and so should the person you tell. This person should be someone who is in your corner to help you stay accountable.
  • Write your goals down and READ them daily:
    We talked about how writing goals down and putting them in a place that we see every day makes the goal real and permanent, but we need to also hear it out loud. We want to read them daily, so it’s the first thing you read when you wake up and the last thing you read when you go to bed. Like I said earlier, seeing it every day is going to help solidify this. I personally find it helpful to write it down in my goal journal and also on q-cards that act as a bookmark. Find creative ways to showcase your goal!

If you made it this far, I have one more challenge. No matter how many fitness tips we read it won’t change if we don’t take action. So let’s take action today. I challenge you to do some homework!!

Homework!

  1. Create a goal and define it clearly
  2. Complete your Seven Layers of WHY
  3. Share your goal with an accountability buddy/ special person.
  4. Find three things you want to focus on this week and go be amazing!

Photo By: David Ford